The days setting tile made a huge difference in daughter’s house. Then I spent the weekend with my friend David and his wife Lynda.
I got back home Sunday evening and Monday morning daughter 1 left with her other care-giver client to “vacation” in LasVegas for a few days. That left me as Miriam’s sole care giver for the week, and caring for Miriam is getting a bit more complex!
Tuesday my brother who lives in Georgia came to Idaho visiting his daughters and grand kids.
Brother was 6 when I began dating Miriam, and I am not sure she will be here for his visit next year, so I loaded up extra clothes and “Depends” and we drove 4 hours to visit. I knew it would be important for him, and very important for me.
We had an extended lunch with our sister who lives in Idaho, then Miriam and I drove back home in the evening. It was a long day, but it was good.
Tomorrow daughter 1 returns from Vegas. It will be good to see her, but Miriam and I have done fairy well in her absence. I have changed diapers a bunch of times and cleaned up after a poo event. I have washed clothes and fixed her food.
Gladly would I trade this Miriam for the strong dependable Miriam of yesteryear, but it does not work that way. I am glad I can take care of her. She is a wonderful woman.
This blog began as a spot to vent about my life with Miriam and her time with Alzheimer's disease.
She was diagnosed in '99 and her decline has been quite slow. In fact some of our best years of our long marriage have been these recent years.
Alzherimer's, at least her version is a disease of waiting. One shoe drops and it can be a very long time before the other one drops.
So life goes on.
At the beginning of this blog I told the story of our courtship and marriage, about out family and our personal journey with this disease. The part that scares the most is the anticipation as the disease slowly progresses.
So, I will touch on that subject from time to time, but the entries will tend toward comments on life. I'll leave politics and religion for others to worry about, not that I don't have strong opinions!
I have my hands full just looking after my wonderful Miriam.
We met when we were 6, began dating at 15 and have been together since. We will have our 56th anniversary this June.
We have four wonderful daughters. Smart, independent, awesome. They have given us 7 grandsons and 4 granddaughters. None of them are little any more. The oldest is 28 and married, the youngest is 14.
Until this last fall we lived in a hosue I designed and built in the '70's and it is pretty weird and wild, but very comfortable. Last summer the girls came to the conclusion that I really did need help dealing with Miriam. Now we live on a couple acres with daughter 1.
Life has been good. There is not much I would do different even if I could. We are rich beyond belief but chronically short of cash!
And, unless stated otherwise all the photographs are mine.